Lessons From College: Sex and Booze
Posted on: December 27, 2013, by : Brandon Gilliland

In the previous post, I shared about my experience of entering college and living away from home. I brought up the ideas of normality/comfortability vs God’s adventurous plan. If you missed it, check out the post here!

 

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I have grown up with a great family. My parents have taught me how to live a life that pleases God. For this reason, I stayed out of a lot of trouble in high school.

 

I never went to a party that involved wild things. I never drank even a sip of alcohol. I never even kissed a girl. Needless to say, I had not experienced the things most teens experience during their younger childhood. I’m thankful for it.

 

For this reason, I knew it was important to always be on guard to protect myself. I knew that I would probably be asked to try some of these things in the future, but it would not be very often.

 

I was wrong…

 

When I started college, what I thought I would be asked maybe once or twice, soon became an every day event. I found myself immersed in a culture that views heavy drinking as not only enjoyable but also acceptable, sex as something not only shared between people who think they love each other but also between people who don’t even know each other, and parties and clubs to attend almost every night.

 

During the semester, there was not a single day that went by where I was not offered, in some way, alcohol or sex. If I wanted it, I could easily get it. It didn’t take long before people started to figure out what I stand for; however, it didn’t stop.

 

I can still say that I have never had a sip of alcohol, attended a wild club/party, or kissed a girl. I purposely set these boundaries to keep myself out of major trouble.

 

 

Set Your Boundaries

 

I share my story because it not only keeps me accountable, but I believe it can also encourage you in your life today.

 

There are things we all struggle with. In my stage of life right now, culture emphasizes alcohol and sex. It’s hard to stand for what is right and to maintain a sound mind in the middle of a selfish culture that only promotes these things.

 

That is why it is so important to wake up every day with the mindset that there is an enemy out there who only wants to destroy your purpose for living. God has an amazing plan for you, and if the devil can get you distracted, he will try to bring you down.

 

As a Christian, you are living an oxymoron. If you don’t know exactly what I mean, check out my post on it here!

 

 

“Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth.”

-Colossians 3:2

 

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  • Rebeca

    Love it! God bless you!

  • Stephanie

    It was great to read this, really encouraging.
    Blessings and greetings from Panama!

  • Myles

    Thank you for sharing this. I am glad a a guy like you still stand up for what is right in God’s eyes. You are a blessing.

  • Holly

    It’s been so hard being at college, i don’t for in and honestly it’s so hard for me to go daily life being alone… But I’m just like you i don’t ever go to party’s here and i go home every weekend just to get away. That’s now i wanted college to be but i know God has great plans ahead and i tell my myself daily and always set reminders when I’m going through tough days. God is good and thank you for sharing this☺️

  • Denver

    Hey Brandon, I love reading your blog. I think it is so hard to stay out of the alcohols. Thanks for all your help. You make such change in my life and I just wanted to say if you ever need girl to kiss, I am here for you <3.

  • Andrea

    I commend you for being so strong and pure in your life living in a society that wants nothing more than to tear down and lead you into temptation! Especially being a college student, I know that the pressure to fall trap to alcohol and sex can be heightened. These things can sometimes be daunting, but it seems to me that you are very firm in your faith and that is a sure sign of a true follower 🙂 many prayers your way as you continue to battle against the evil one with its tempting ways, and many more prayers that you will continue to be a great servant of God!
    -Your sister in Christ

  • Kingdom Worker

    Love This! Boundaries are so important to have no matter what age you are. Setting boundaries for yourself and knowing that your actions must glorify God. Your words and/or actions must be pleasing to God. I admire your faithfulness even when you were given freedom away from your parents. Often times this is where many of us fall into peer pressure. Although it may be difficult at times the reward later in heaven will be well worth it. Keep spreading and sharing your love for God and His Kingdom. Love your sister in Christ <3

  • angel

    love your blog

  • pinkan

    i love it. at least, there is still a person like you in this world of madness. God bless you.

  • So true! I love your blog! I’ve also set boundaries and without them and the grace of God, I would not have been a virgin on my wedding night!

    I think you might like the poem I wrote in this post –> http://reporterofhope.com/2014/01/love/ ‘Love is more’. Keep up the good work 🙂

  • jay roker

    great post!

  • Jack Edmington

    You are so close to god. I was I could be as pure as you and pursue the life god meant me to have. Unfortunately I gave into all the pressures of the world. I’m reluctant to admit… I’m homosexual, is there any advice you can give to rid myself of this possession and get as close to christ as you?