08 May 2012 ~ 13 Comments

Leading Worship When Others Are Disengaged

Over the few years of leading worship, I have found that it’s hard to lead when others are disengaged. If you did not know, I lead worship for my youth group. It has been an amazing journey, but it has not been a smooth one. I have experienced many trials while trying to be a servant to this ministry. In fact, I am in the middle of several trials at the moment.

In a youth group setting, you have those who desire to worship God and those that could care less. It is hard to try to lead worship with an audience that consists of individuals on two entirely different wavelengths. For the past year, this has been my battle.

The band and I practice every Sunday night after church, and we meet sometimes three hours before the Wednesday night service starts. We pour a lot of time and effort into the ministry, and sometimes it feels like it is all for nothing. This is exactly what Satan wants us all to believe. The devil wants to wear us down and try to convince us that our time and efforts are worth nothing. It is a lie!

The fact is that not everyone will want to worship God. When I step up on stage every Wednesday night, I have to realize that a spiritual battle is raging. Satan wants to do everything in his power to destroy our worship for God. Every Wednesday night, I see and feel this battle raging. There are several things that I do to help defeat this battle (and I can only do it through Jesus):

Prepare a Worship Set With God in Mind

In order to defeat this battle, I have to prepare. Most importantly, I prepare spiritually. Personal prayer and worship time is extremely important.

Taking it to another level, preparing an awesome worship set is important. In a previous post, I mentioned some key components to selecting an awesome worship set. The main thing was prayer. God must direct everything in worship. We are simply servants. If a worship set is selected without time in prayer, it shows that God’s agenda is not important.

Pray With the Band Collectively

Prayer is powerful. I have noticed that when prayer is not a priority, then the worship set usually is a failure. This failure can only be measured eternally. Yes, the band might have nailed the transition perfectly, but if it was “musically awesome” only…it is a problem. There have been a few times when we have forgotten to pray before a practice. It turned out that the practice was disastrous!

I now pray with my band before and after practice. This allows time to prepare for sound check and to prepare for worship. The prayer and devotional time before the service has really helped us set our minds on the task that God has for us!

Trust and Follow God

Leading worship is hard sometimes. It sometimes feels like there are so many things to do…I have to sing, play electric guitar, stomp pedals, orchestrate the band (give signals when to speed up…slow down…etc), encourage others to worship, and actually worship myself. It is a lot, and it takes practice to master.

I have learned during the sets to pray constantly. That’s what worship is all about. God wants to hear from us…to worship Him! There is a difference between singing/playing worship and leading worship.

When you have prepared, the last thing to do is trust God. He will always make all things work together according to His will. The main thing is to be prayed up and prepared for each service. No matter if you are on stage or in the audience,  it is important to be prayed up and to be prepared for to worship God.

I have found that although many individuals are disengaged, if I am prepared, God is prepared. He has never let me down yet!

How do you prepare for worship?

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  • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joseph Lalonde

    I’m not a fancy worshiper. Rarely do I raise my hands or clap along with the music. Yet I enjoy it and worship along with others.

    Sometimes I feel I may be a distraction to the worship leaders because of my perceived non-worship. But, in the end, I really have worshiped.

    • http://www.brandongilliland.com Brandon

      I totally understand that. You certainly are not a distraction. The distraction that I was referring to in this post was an attitude of “I could care less”. Many times, when I lead worship, I see blank stares and it is obvious that a majority of the group does not want to worship.

      There is a difference between having an attitude of “I could care less” and just being more reserved.

      Great thoughts though…this might have to be a new post! haha

  • http://www.nginaotiende.blogspot.com Ngina Otiende

    I am rediscovering new ways to worship and connect with God. I have been in a kind of transition for the last several months, now attending a new church and in a new culture. I am used to exuberant times of worship and praise (if you have ever seen African service, that’s what i mean) and coming to an almost subdued environment with little to no time of actual deep fervent prayer in the service was something HUGE to adjust to.

    So I am learning to connect with God in a different way, not relying on the worship team to lead or guide my depth or connection to God at that time. it’s true that when one hungers and thirsts for God, they will find Him, even if they find themselves in a desert place (not that my current church is a desert place..lol)

    • http://www.brandongilliland.com Brandon Gilliland

      What you said was interesting. When you mentioned “almost subdued environment”, I agreed with you. I feel that worship time is often to “religiously reverent” today in churches. God wants us to be excited and to seek Him whole-heartedly. It sometimes is hard to worship in church because everything is so structured. Ultimately, worship is a time with just God. He wants us to praise Him privately and corporately.

      You mentioned some great things that I think present challenges to the modern day church. Thanks for sharing!

  • http://joeandancy.com/ Joe Abraham

    Appreciate your honesty, Brandon!

    I used to lead worship often in the past before I began focusing much on the teaching ministry. So I understand what you are talking about. Along with what you already do, one thing you can do is to give your attention to those who enjoy worship. You aren’t rejecting those that are disengaged, but you are giving more attention to those that are engaged. This creates a positive impact on your mind and you can enjoy leading worship. I do this and I see results. Wish you a fruitful time of leading worship in your youth group!

    • http://www.brandongilliland.com Brandon

      Thanks for stopping by, Joe! I agree with what you are saying. In fact, I was planning on getting a post together for that very topic.

      This past week, we had an awesome night of worship with the group. It was amazing. I will be writing on it soon!

      • http://joeandancy.com/ Joe Abraham

        Wow! Enjoy God!

  • AislinnthelionRawr

    Wow, we talked about this the other night!

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  • http://www.beyondthesinnersprayer.wordpress.com/ Barb

    Wow, you have so much good advice here. I’ve experience the same thing in leading Bible studies in my hometown – you have some who really want to grow and some who don’t want to grow at all.

    It used to really bother me and I’d wrack my brains to think of some way to motivate the non-growers to grow. Finally I realized, it’s not my responsibility to get them to grow. All God asks from me is to pray for them, love them, and teach what God wants me to teach.

    Once I let go of my unrealistic expectations, I enjoyed leading the studies more.

    • http://www.beyondthesinnersprayer.wordpress.com/ Barb

      Forgot to say – I thought this was really interesting. Didn’t realize leading worship was the same as teaching a study.

    • http://www.brandongilliland.com/ Brandon Gilliland

      That’s all you can do. As long as you are seeking God and doing what he wants you to do, the rest is all left up to Him.
      Thanks for sharing!