There is no doubt connecting with others requires energy…and lots of it! In order to have energy to connect, there are some strategies that must be learned.
5 Ways to Use Energy for Connecting
As a leader and a “connector”, we must be willing to take the first step.
It is important to have a plan when you are connecting with someone. It would not be beneficial to you or the other individual if you were not concerned or did not have clarity of mind when trying to connect. It is essential to:
- Know Yourself
- Know Your Audience
- Know Your Stuff
Connecting requires patience. Sometimes, we want to “cut-to-the-chase”. Instead, we should be willing to listen and understand the other person. This is hard to do…especially if there are other things going on!
This concept ties into patience. We need to be concerned about the other person (not our desires) if we are going to connect. Ever been with someone who only talks about himself? You certainly do not want to be this individual if you are trying to connect!
This post was originally a guest post that I wrote a few months ago.
Connecting with others on a deep level is a skill. Although some can do it more easily than others, it must be developed. Energy is important in connecting.
In one of John C. Maxwell’s books, he explains some tips involved in having others listen to you.
5 Things that Cause Someone to Listen
- Relationships- Who you know
- Insight-What you know
- Success-What you have done
- Ability-What you can do
- Sacrifice-What you have lived
The five points mentioned above are really the five “pillars” of what causes someone to listen. Although they are all essential, I think that the most important of the five is sacrifice.
Great connectors must meet the other individual(s) on common ground. It is all about the other person. This obviously requires energy. John mentions that “It’s difficult to find common ground with others when the only person you are focused on is yourself.”
I can’t agree more!
One of the things that I have learned about from switching to a self-hosted wordpress platform is plugins. These can be viewed as applications for your website. When I first set up my website, I was completely lost on what plugins are necessary to download. If you have too many, it can slow down your site considerably. On the other free blogging platforms such as blogger and wordpress.com, plugins are not available. However, plugins are necessary for any self-hosted blog or website.
I have received a few questions and emails from several people in the last few months about plugins, so I thought that I would list some of the ones I am using:
Askimet- This plugin is responsible for blocking unwanted spam from your website’s comments. A must have! It is totally free!
All in One SEO Pack- This plugin helps bring a whole new SEO experience to your blog. I highly recommend having it!
Disqus- The commenting system that I have on my site. I talk more about it here!
I have always been a golf enthusiast. Every chance I get to play, I am out on the course. There are a few things about golf that are essential to play a great game: endurance, management, and mentality. There is no doubt that each of these qualities (or practices) are necessary for playing a strong game. The same applies to our Christian life. In order to stand strong as a Christian, the qualities of endurance, management, and mentality must be present. These qualities must be developed.
In golf, physical endurance is key. If you are not physically in shape, playing golf will be pure torture. Of course, you can always get a cart and ride, but that is not true golf! You have to walk to get the full experience!
The Christian life brings many challenges. You have to be physically in shape to be a strong ambassador for Christ. When time in the Word is forsaken, our physical endurance can quickly become diminished.
Time is valuable. Where you choose to spend your time reflects your priorities in life. There are many things that want to steal your time. Although social networking is great in many aspects, it can also be a major time consumer if it is placed in front of other more important things. The fact is that this world wants to distract us with other things that will keep us away from serving God.
Everyone has 86,000 seconds in a day. In reality, you have less than this amount of time because a good portion of it is spent sleeping. Our time is valuable. How you use the time that you are given each day reflects your priorities. It is hard for me sometimes to get away from the things that steal my time. I’m sure it is the same for you.
In 1st Corinthians, it says:
“Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.”
-1 Corinthians 10:31
Recently, I started a great book called “Everyone Communicates Few Connect” by John C. Maxwell. I have read the first few chapters of this book, and it is incredible! The tagline of the book is: what the most effective people do differently.
Already, I have learned so many concepts from this book. Really, communicating is everything. I’m sure we could all say that we have had a time where we meant something that didn’t come out quite right or a time when we tried to present an idea that was overturned simply because we didn’t communicate the idea effectively.
This book is so great…that I thought that it would be a good idea to highlight some things from it in a series of posts. I’m gonna take a little break from the “Defining Character” series because I need a little bit of extra time to develop it more. I could literally spend my whole life on this blog writing aon the character series…so I think it will be good to take a little break from it.
For the past two days, I have had the awesome opportunity to participate in the Junior Course Reporter program through The First Tee at a local golf course, the TPC at Sawgrass. The whole program allowed us to go behind the scenes in the golf tournament. It was awesome! I talked all about it in the two blogs I wrote about the experience on the PGA TOUR site. If you want to check out the blogs with pictures and everything, you can check them out here!
Here is the first day:
When I walked through the entrance to the TPC at Sawgrass to take part in the Junior Course Reporters program, I did not know what to expect. Even though I had an idea of what might occur, I was shocked to find that the experience exceeded my expectations. Although I have been to a few golf tournaments, I have never been able to experience all of the “behind the scenes” of a PGA TOUR golf tournament.
It is evident that everyone has different personality characteristics and ambitions. Although most can notice a common personality connection between individuals of the same birth order, many respected researchers have confirmed the direct correlations between one’s birth order and personality traits. For example, first-borns are often known for being logical, ambitious, perfectionists, and are characterized by being natural leaders. Middle children, however, have been shown to possess characteristics completely opposite of the firstborn in the family. Generally, the middle child is noted to be shy, rebellious, and diplomatic. Although these characteristics hold true in some middle children, studies have shown that middle children can also be extroverted. The lastborns in the family are usually known for being idealists, adventurous, and humorous. Another type of individual is the only child. These individuals are typically more mature, responsible, and self-centered. Although studies and observations from researchers have shown the positive correlations between one’s birth order and personality to confirm their observations, there are a lot more factors that determine an individual’s personality. To simply conclude that all middle children are going to be rebellious would not be an accurate statement. Even though birth order largely contributes to personality, it is the environmental factors that actually determine one’s life.